The wise saying goes, ‘Never break a human heart, which is God’s best construction’.
God condemns for life, by giving those a broken heart. A sincere lover
boy or a girl, do not love to break. However, breaking up does not mean
that it is the end of the world. But the process, the stages involved
till the final breakup, are extremely difficult. The pangs turn
unbearable and sometimes lead to suicidal tendencies.

Initially, the idea of breakup comes up in a fit of anger over some misunderstandings.

The
prestige issue and ego come to the fore. The girl, the moment she
begins to love a boy, demands his exclusive attention. She cannot
tolerate any other innocent or friendly relationship of her boy with
anyone. The boys have a tendency to be friendly with more than one girl.
They fail to realize that, once the relationship becomes serious with a
particular girl, it needs to be viewed in an entirely new perspective.
The girl whom he loves is not willing to share that exclusiveness with
anyone else.

The boy or a girl makes impulsive decisions to breakup following some
minor altercations. This is the problem with the combustible younger
generation. They hasten to break; they forget that there is a golden
middle path—that of reconciliation.

Break-up is an immediate problem between two individuals.
But it has adverse effect on the psychology of the members of the
family.

They are compelled to watch a situation where they are unable to do
anything positively. The process of breaking up begins with a question. 
The girl has realized that it is most probably all over for her. Her
inner consciousness warns her that the relationship needs to be
terminated without any further delay.

When it is not necessary to break, it is necessary not to break.

When the break is necessary, it needs to be carried out without
hesitation, but with fortitude, to save future troubles. There is no
easy way to do it, but a procedure will have to be followed.

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Some of the reasons for break up are:

  1. Not-so important issues become important as the relationship
    develops, when the girl thinks that she has to carry on with a life-long
    partnership with her boyfriend, with un

    steady approach to issues.

  2. The boyfriend is nice to the girl, but cannot maintain his mental
    poise in the presence of her relatives. He is mean to them but loves the
    girlfriend immensely.
  3. The girl has found out that the boyfriend is a compulsive liar.
  4. They are unable to like each other with the same intensity of passion/feelings when they first met each other.

How to handle the breakup?

  • Instead of keeping the issue suppressed in the heart, it is better
    to make a clean slate about the intentions. Practice this honest
    approach and get it right. Waiting and postponing the issue will add to
    more confusion will end up in frustration and the results could be
    bitter. Do not keep the boyfriend confused; he is the individual whom
    you trusted until very recently. Waiting makes the situation worse. The
    boyfriend must be told about the decision, it should be explained
    politely but firmly, that the decision to break is final. Stick to the
    resolution and avoid rethink at all costs.
  • As far as possible, a new resolve may sprout to remain as friends.
    Be wary of this decision, it may work to spoil the intended break.
    Better to cut off the ties, once for all. Do not carry the extra
    baggage, throughout life. Since this is the most important emotional
    issue, it is better not to get charged up. State your opinion with a
    calm mind about the intended breakup.
  • Do not involve in a blaming game. Do not cause any intentional pain
    with harsh expressions. The issue is there and it has to be faced
    boldly. Waiting will add to the confusion. Talk about the issue in a
    straightforward manner without sending mixed signals. The blame game
    will not help the cause, as the intended breakup is not tentative, but
    final.
  • Do not allow the relationship to take an aggressive turn. Means of
    communicating the breakup will vary according to the situation—to sort
    out the issue in person is the best option. Give a call, write a letter
    or finally, avail the services of a trusted common friend.
  • As for the boy, when the girl gives strong negative signals, due to a
    variety of reasons, it is time to take stock of the situation and
    accept the reality and move on. Give up sweet imaginings that the
    relations will fructify again. Without unnecessary confrontation and
    baseless accusations, take things positively to say the final word and
    terminate the relationship once for all.
  • The next step is to mend the heart with a cool-off period.
    Initially, the healing process may not be easy, at the same time it is
    an attainable reality.  To sum up poetically,

She sows the seed of love and the tender sapling
grows, It is full of fragrant flowers, when she cuts it and
throws…doesn’t matter. Roses bloom even in the graveyard!

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